Agreed! I have a baggallini messenger bag in tan/khaki that I really love. I can pass it to DH without any issues. Not too big, not too small. Can be worn cross body, but I usually sling it over my left shoulder.I highly recommend getting a bag that you know your DH will take his turn at carrying (ie: nothing with sparkly bits, the color pink or anything that remotely resembles a purse).